And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Anais Nin
Are you longing for a deeply connected and joyous relationship?
Are you ready to use your full creative potential rather than rely on familiar reactive patterns?
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Are you feeling disconnected or resentful in your relationship?
Are you caught in a toxic pattern that you can’t seem to stop?​
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Coaching will help you clear up old beliefs and stories that have kept
you from having what you really want in your life and relationships.
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Coaching will equip you with powerful tools to create and sustain joy and inspiration in your life and relationships.
I will help you to set goals and empower you with skills to create and sustain a satisfying life. I welcome the full spectrum of you... your small parts, your BIG parts, your seeming contradictions, your stuck parts, yes, all of YOU! And, I will invite you to let go of your ineffective patterns while creating new pathways for positive change in the areas of your life that you most desire transformation.
Bring your relationship challenges and goals. I will support you with healing your wounded parts and also empower you with skills to create a healthy and intimate connection. I will help you set autonomous goals that will promote individual growth to benefit your relationship. Both partners must be present for the sessions.
What my clients are saying...
Megan has been transformative for us in our evolution in partnership. We refer her to everyone we know who needs relationship support! She is skillful in helping us understand & hear each other & our impact on each other, take responsibility for how we are creating a situation, & have communication & listening skills that lead to a more loving connection. She has helped us through difficult conversations & we both have become relationally literate as a result of working with her. Megan rocks!!
~Leiah & Darren
About Megan
How can I be my whole self while you be your whole self, while our partnership creates beauty and joy that we cannot create on our own?
This lifelong curiosity has been my foundation for practicing and teaching the skills of conscious living and loving for nearly twenty years. In my practice, I teach individuals and couples tools that help you quickly recognize and dismantle reactive strategies while learning new skills that enable you to give and receive more love and experience satisfying connection in your life and relationships.
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In my early years, I hid parts of myself in fear that expressing my authenticity would create conflict or pain. I suffered the consequences of classic codependent relationships – editing myself, feeling dissatisfied, hiding, being resentful – until I turned to the teachings of Gay and Katie Hendricks. I utilize the tools I teach daily with my husband of 15 years, 12 year old daughter and social community.
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I believe most adults have constructed an armored shell of protection from the pain of life. My mission in life is to support humans to free themselves from these shells so that purpose, creativity, and light guide our world into a more just, loving and peaceful era.
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I am a certified Transformational Coach through the Foundation for Conscious Living under Gay and Katie Hendricks, PhD and a Graduate of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy under Ellyn Bader, PhD at The Couples Institute. My practice is also informed by trainings and tools from today’s leading relationship researchers and practitioners including Julie & John Gottman and Terrence Real.
What to Expect on the Coaching Journey
Step 1: Discovery Session
A no-cost 20 minute zoom session. You'll share with me your goals for coaching and I'll share how I can help.
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Step 2: Session 1
Your first full session on Zoom or in person in Santa Cruz where we identify your growth edge and dive into the tools.
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Step 3: Start a 3-month Journey
Choose from two options: Once per week or once every two weeks to transform your big issue. Continue with additional 3-month journeys after the first 3 months as needed. ​​​
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What to Expect on the Couples Intensive Journey
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Step 2: Book your Complimentary Consultation
A no-cost 45 minute zoom session to discuss the Coupes Intensive experience. You'll share with me your goals and we will discuss if the Intensive is the best option for you.
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Step 3: Schedule the Intensive and Complete Questionnaires
Before the Intensive, you will complete extensive questionnaires which will help you prepare for the intensive and will show me your specific strengths and areas that need support so that I can customize the intensive for your specific needs.
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Step 4: Immerse in the Couples Intensive
Learn and practice high impact skills that will change the way you interact with each other. You will leave with a customized game plan and a binder full of reminders and communication techniques to support your practice.​
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Step 5: Follow Up Session
We will meet to assess and celebrate your progress, and make a plan for future support as needed.​​​​
Are you ready for positive change?
Are you ready to create positive change in your life and your relationships? Change happens with intention, with commitment. Committing means moving your attention, energy and action in a chosen direction. It means that you’re willing to move toward a chosen goal even without knowing exactly how to get there. The following commitments will allow for the most effective and graceful path for positive change. I invite you into these commitments as guidelines for our coaching work together.
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Check out the commitments below and notice how they resonate. Do they excite you, tickle your imagination, invoke positive curiosity? If so, you’re ready!
Commitments that Fuel Positive Change & Transformation
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I commit to taking full responsibility for the circumstances of my life, and for my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing. I commit to supporting others to take full responsibility for their lives.
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I commit to growing in self-awareness. I commit to regarding every interaction as an opportunity to learn. I commit to curiosity as a path to rapid learning.
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I commit to letting go of “being right” and instead shift into a state of wonder and curiosity.
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I commit to feeling my feelings all the way through to completion. They come, and I locate them in my body then move, breathe and vocalize them so they release all the way through.
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I commit to saying what is true for me. I commit to being a person to whom others can express themselves with honesty.​​
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I commit to the masterful practice of integrity, including acknowledging all key feelings, expressing the unarguable truth (speaking in a way that invites wonder and doesn’t blame or criticize anyone) and keeping my agreements.
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I commit to living in appreciation, opening to both receiving and giving appreciation.
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I commit to expressing my magnificence, and to being an opening for others to fully express their creativity and aliveness.
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I commit to seeing that I interpret the world around me and give my stories meaning. I commit to acknowledging when I'm making up a story and then choose to let go of my story and open to wonder and learning.
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I commit to being the source of my security, control and approval.
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I commit to seeing all people and circumstances in my life as allies that are perfectly suited to help me learn the most important things for my growth.
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I commit to being the resolution or solution that is needed, rather than passively complaining.
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I commit to perpetually releasing expectations about how things need to be.
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I commit to recommitting as many times as needed.
Resources for the Coaching Journey
Stages of Close Relationships
Use this guide to assess your relationship stage. Shift into conscious loving choices.
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Drama
Triangle
Learn about the roles that keep you stuck in drama, repeating issues in your life. Replace those roles with presence.
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Persona
Interview
Get to know the adaptive strategies that have helped you survive. They might not be helping anymore.
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4 Pitfalls of Relationships
Learn how to prevent Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling in your relationships.
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Triangle
Cards
Use these cards (Victim/Villain/Hero) to enact your drama/ reactive patterns. When you own it, you can change it.
Brain
Science
What happens in your brain when you are triggered? Watch this helpful 2 min video by
Dr Siegel.
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Evolutionary Cycle
We are humming along and then something happens that triggers a fear response. This map helps.
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Fear
Melters
What’s fear got to do with it? Learn how fear manifests as reactivity in your life and how to transform it.
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Couples
Coaching
Get the most out of Couples Coaching. Check out this article, which aligns with my philosophy.
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Let's begin the conversation.
Sessions available in Santa Cruz, Ca 95062
or via Zoom or phone